Monkey Madness Monday: Love: Choice vs. Feeling

So, I had a debate the other day about Love. The argument, could you choose to love someone, or was it an inherent feeling? I'm talking about romantic love here, not the love you feel for your child or friends.

In my opinion, you cannot choose who you love. It's a feeling that comes from deep within. It's like a flower, it starts out as a tiny bud, then grows and blossoms into something big and beautiful. My opposition said you can choose who you love. I don't think you can open yourself up like that. You either love someone or you don't, you can't force yourself.

I asked two other people. One said definitely a feeling. The other said it's a choice of trust. You have to choose to trust that person and only then can you open your heart to them.

Oddly enough, the two who said love is a choice are men, the one who said feeling is a woman.

What do you think?

F³A: Inked

So, I've always wanted a tattoo.  I just turned 43 and finally got one. I'd call this some kind of mid-life crisis thing, but I went through that about five years ago. And like I said, I always wanted one. Those of you who know me, or have been reading me can probably guess what I got. It could only be one of a couple things right? Soccer ball? Monkey? Or...

 

I decided a while back to get a sun on my forearm so I could always see the sun even on the grayest of days here in the northwest. I was going to go with one of those more mystical suns with the face, but the bf said they reminded him of the sun on the Teletubbies and ruined them for me. So I went tribal, which is more "me" anyway I suppose. I'm more primal than cabalistic.

Did it hurt? Yeah, like an MF, but only at first. I didn't scream like a little bitch like the bf wanted (only because I made fun of him when he was getting his tat), there were no tears shed. Maybe a couple of pained grimaces. After awhile though, when you know what pain to expect you kind become numb to it. At least I did. And of course, the less meaty part of the forearm hurt like a bitch compared to the rest.

So there it is, my first tattoo. I will undoubtedly get more. I mean, I'm not going to be getting a sleeve or anything, but I have ideas for at least two more, and yes, a monkey is going to be involved. 

Happy Friday, here are the Scribbles:

Random Pandora Song: You Only Live Once, The Strokes

 

Book of the Week: Still reading Velveteen by Danny Marks and loving it. Favorite line so far, and Danny has it on his bookmarks, "She walks a tightrope between psycho and smokin'" How brilliant is that?

Netflix/Redbox of the Week: Hard to decide. I fell asleep during a couple movies this week. I'm going with The Mechanic. Jason Statham, Ben Foster, I mean, Statham shirtless, violence, explosions, what more can you ask for from an action movie?

Quote of the Week: "Show me a man with a tattoo and I'll show you a man with an interesting past."  ~Jack London

Life in the Fast Lane

So lately I've been driving a lot, to school visits, to conference, to book release parties, and I have to admit, I'm a bit of a lead foot. Also, being Scot, Italian, and Aries, I'm a tiny bit impatient *oozing sarcasm*

I mostly stay in the very left lane. Slower drivers stay right, right? Stay right unless to pass, right? I seem to always be passing. I can't help it. It's just the way I drive. So I stay left.

Now, if I'm in that left lane and someone comes up behind me who is obviously traveling at a faster speed than I, I pull into the lane to my right and let them pass.  This is freeway etiquette, yes? That's the way I've always known it to be.

So why are the slower drivers so stubborn these days? It's like they make it a point now to get in the very left lane, drive slow, and stay put. I don't know how many drivers I came up behind who just stayed there. When I can, I'll just pass them on the right, even though I shouldn't have to and you're not supposed to, but what else am I supposed to do?

But if I can't? I mean, is it some evil plan to irritate all the left lane drivers of the world? And how about when it's a one lane highway, and clearly, the person in the front of the pack is holding EVERYONE else up. SLOW VEHICLE TURNOUT! What is so difficult about pulling into one of those very large parking strips and waiting until those of us who like to drive at least the speed limit go by? That is what the vehicle turnouts are for. And the signs used to say delay of 5 vehicles unlawful. Some of these assclowns have had 10 to 20! Not sure if they still use those signs, but they SHOULD! They're usually even warned at least a quarter mile ahead when the turnout is coming, so it's not like they don't see it until the last minute!

Do I drive too fast? Probably. But it's freeway politeness to get out of that very left lane if someone comes up behind you driving faster. It's like an unspoken rule. Be polite. You will be saving the person much frustration, road rage, and numerous obscenities.

I'm not venting

Stole this photo from Danny

I know, yesterday I promised a rant, but I forgot that I was going to Jennifer Shaw Wolf's book release party. That's right. Her YA novel, Breaking Beautiful was released yesterday and her party was held at Fireside Books in Olympia Washington. My fellow Harbingers of Doom were mostly in attendance, J Anderson Coats, Danny Marks, Marissa Meyer, we were only missing Marissa Burt. Also, in attendance was 2k11er, Kiki Hamilton. We try and support each others endeavors whenever possible.

I stole this photo from Jen

Jennifer's party was wonderful. There was food, a beautiful cake with her book cover on it. She also had a speak come from SafePlace Olympia to speak. SafePlace is a confidential shelter for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. Jennifer had people bring donations for the shelter and also had a raffle to support the wonderful cause. Jennifer chose SafePlace because her novel deals with domestic abuse.

Jen signing books, I stole this pic from her too.

Jen looked gorgeous and happy and her husband was running around taking pictures and beaming with absolute pride. Aside from the Harbingers and Kiki, the room was filled with family and friends, other writers and readers. Jen said it was the best day ever. You should go out and buy her book. Now. Go. SHOO!!  Buy Kiki's, Marissa's (both), J's, and mine while you're at it. You'll have to wait for Danny's, doesn't come out until October, but I'll tell you what, I'm reading it right now (I have an ARC) and it is delicious!

SCBWI Conference Recap

I can't tell you every little thing that happened because the author's presentations are their property and I don't want to give everything away, so I'll just say a little about each one.

Friday:

Dialogue intensive with author Matt de la Pena. He basically talked about the writer getting out of the way and letting the characters take over the story. This makes a lot of sense and I believe it would immerse the reader deeper into the story.

Saturday:

Session with literary agent Tricia Lawrence from Erin Murphy Literary Agency. She talked about the revision process. Basically she said you should look to yourself when revising and dig deep.

Session with author Helen Landalf. She talked about keeping it real in fiction, meaning having your novel be authentic rather than accurate.

Session with author Bruce Hale about Skype visits with schools. Mostly talked about making sure your equipment works and to be entertaining. Also to make sure you are prepared and to make sure the teacher or librarian on the other side is prepared as well.

Session with author Rachel Vail on Character Building. She talked about the need to know your characters in depth before trying to write them.

Session with Caroline Sun publicist for Harper. She talked about publicity vs marketing, and what your publicist can do for you. She also talked about how to communicate with your publicist and what you can do on your own do publicize your book.

The keynotes were really good too. Bruce Hale talked about having to be a warrior writer. Matt de la Pena talked about being a working class writer. Melissa Sweet talked about digging in deep with research. Bonny Becker talking about being yourself when writing, and Rachel Vail spoke about writing with humor and heart to build characters.

Those are the basics without giving too much away. Some things to think about...



Tomorrow I rant about stress, as usual. :)