What is it with men not expressing themselves. When they're upset, why do they keep it all bottled up? Wouldn't it be better to talk it out? Especially with someone they trust and who cares about them?
This drives me nuts. Don't they know when they're all broody and upset and don't say anything we think it's about us (because we are women full of weepy emotional making estrogen)? Sheesh, at least say, "It's not you. It's _____________(fill in the blank)." I'd be fine with that.
Men, tell us why you don't talk to us. What's your damage?
Guys don't share their feelings for 3 reasons:
ReplyDelete1-You're (women, not you specifically, Megan) the reason for them and we're trying to avoid a fight, hurting you, or one of your patented emotional avalanches.
2-Our feelings have nothing to do with you and you wouldn't believe that if we told you, because the world revolves around you.
3-We're just feeling that way for no particular reason, because we're not emotionally-complex creatures and sometimes that's all it is, and we don't want to have ulterior motives ascribed to it (ie: "he's not talking to me; he must be cheating on me!").
So just leave us be, and we'll come out of whatever feelings-based issue we're having. Or, alternately, offer a blowjob, because they're always welcome and always cheer us up. ;)
lol. Thank you Ian for the explanation. That makes a lot of sense.
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