There is a website called Family Share. It has articles. I have read some of their relationships/marriage articles.
Barf.
One is titled 5 ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage. Yes, you single-handedly are destroying your husband.
1. You should show him respect and appreciation by following a budget. Stop complaining about your "lavish" desires. Is that any way of saying "thank you" to a man that works all day?
Um...last I checked most households were two income households these days and most women are not selfish bitches who live like the Kardashians. How about we communicate with each other about spending so WE don't go in the hole.
2. Stop your constant complaining. That's right, I'm talking to you. No one likes a Debbie Downer. Your constant negativity will bring your hubby down and make him sad.
Yes, because women do nothing but complain all fucking day. Er...really?
3. You must put your husband before all else. Okay at least she says on this one, put each other first, but...
Job? Who cares? Friends? Who needs 'em? Kids? Make 'em fend for themselves. You should put each other first when you can, but seriously, marriages fail when you don't have your own lives and own interests, and um, children are kind of important.
4. Don't withhold physical affection. EVEN IF YOU AREN'T IN THE MOOD.Right, because there is nothing sexier then a women who isn't in the mood but gives in anyway because her husband wants her to. Jesus. Really? Rape culture anyone?
5. Speak his language. Stop dropping hints like women do. Speak plainly about your feelings. Don't expect him to know what's wrong.
Right, and men love it when we talk about "feelings" don't they? Speak their language? How about, once again, we meet somewhere in the middle. Communication is key here. There needs to be effort on both sides to make a marriage work.
This article truly made me retch. We need to cater to, pander to, bend over backwards and put everything aside for our significant others while they just sit back
and enjoy the ride? I don't think so.
Marriage is a partnership. An EQUAL partnership. At least to me it is. You share
If we want to follow the rules like this article states, we may as well give up our jobs, and move the clock back about 50 years when a women's place was in the kitchen wearing a dress, high heels and an apron, always made up and drunk on martinis.
I am so with you. Made me hostile on so many levels. This kind of advice was sexist and wrong even in a day and age when women were 'kept' (which was exactly one generation in history--those born in the 30s and early 40s--BEFORE that women worked, even if it was home labor (canning, sewing) and AFTER that they had to get jobs outside the home because it costs two incomes to pay for a family.
ReplyDeleteYes. I truly felt nauseated reading this article. Having been a stay at home mom for many years, I know how much work that entails as well. So gee, I'm sorry if I complain a bit and need to get out of the house every so often and don't feel like screwing.
ReplyDeleteAnd please, men can be just as bad at spending as women and communicating? Um...right. lol. I think I need to write a follow up, 5 ways you are killing your wife and destroying your marriage. haha. I actually have another article from that same website I want to write about tomorrow. Equally as nauseating.
It's official - I love you! This article is so beyond sexist and offensive, and what makes it worse is that it's written by a woman!!! Hello? 21st Century Calling!
ReplyDeleteI know, right? I'm actually writing another response today it pissed me off so badly. haha.
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